Blowing Hot and Cold
One of the more annoying things with meeting guys - dating in general. Is the tendency we all have to blow hot and cold. Some do it more than others - but we all take part. From the fully fledged 'pick up artist' to the guy who has read a book called 'The Game' to the girl that follows her own rules regarding how many hours to wait before she texts him or how many dates before she sleeps with him. Or the boy that chases you and then doesn't call back or the girl who sleep with you and now doesn't call you back.
We all do it, despite our best intentions. We all send mixed messages. No one is ever truly 100% a truth-telling straight shooter. I like to think I am, I'm sure that there are many of us who like to think that we are, am I right?
But let's study the facts - there are certain situations where even I can look back and hold my hands up and agree that indeed I do blow hot and cold like the best of them.
Honestly, we all do it in the first stages of dating - if we are really keen on someone that might be hard to confess to. Yes, we still show that we like them and are keen but really if they straight out ask you how much you like them - you would probably play it down. You don't know that person too well yet and it would make you feel exposed and vulnerable.
Truth be told - this level of hot and cold treatment, maybe not the worst of it but still. Same thing when you're dating someone and you have that gut feeling letting you know it probably won't work out. But there is no concrete proof, so you go along with it a bit more just to be sure since he/she is perfectly nice. That is kind of in a indirect way blowing hot and cold.
So no matter how good our intentions are - we all do it more or less dependent on our level of truth-telling straight shooting. Finally, at the moment I'm going through a period of blowing hot and cold with myself - it's a one woman head game.
We all do it, despite our best intentions. We all send mixed messages. No one is ever truly 100% a truth-telling straight shooter. I like to think I am, I'm sure that there are many of us who like to think that we are, am I right?
But let's study the facts - there are certain situations where even I can look back and hold my hands up and agree that indeed I do blow hot and cold like the best of them.
Honestly, we all do it in the first stages of dating - if we are really keen on someone that might be hard to confess to. Yes, we still show that we like them and are keen but really if they straight out ask you how much you like them - you would probably play it down. You don't know that person too well yet and it would make you feel exposed and vulnerable.
Truth be told - this level of hot and cold treatment, maybe not the worst of it but still. Same thing when you're dating someone and you have that gut feeling letting you know it probably won't work out. But there is no concrete proof, so you go along with it a bit more just to be sure since he/she is perfectly nice. That is kind of in a indirect way blowing hot and cold.
So no matter how good our intentions are - we all do it more or less dependent on our level of truth-telling straight shooting. Finally, at the moment I'm going through a period of blowing hot and cold with myself - it's a one woman head game.